Marriage is a long term commitment. Or at least it should be if you enter the arrangement for the right reasons. But the sheer longevity of a marriage often makes for some difficult times along the way. Tempers fray, boredom sets in, and attractions wane. So what can you do to restore the equilibrium in your relationship if you and your other half have hit a rocky patch?
Identify the Problem
Once the average daily temperature of your marriage hits sub-zero, the time has come to start looking at why things are so bad. In some cases, it might be because of an insurmountable problem. For example: one of you has started playing away. If this is the case, you will probably benefit from therapy and/or a good divorce lawyer. But if your problems are merely that you are both feeling taken for granted or that one of you has let themselves go, a bit of quality time together with the opportunity to talk things through could be just what your marriage needs.
Take Some Time Out
Sometimes, a bit of time spent apart is enough for you both to realise how important the other person is. One of you could go away for the weekend to give each of you some space. Or if one partner is feeling tired, stressed and taken for granted, send them on a spa break to help them rest and recuperate. You should find that a little bit of spoiling can go an awful long way when your relationship is on the rocks.
Enjoy Quality Time Together
If part of the problem is that you have drifted apart due to the pressures of a busy family life and demanding jobs, some quality time together could be enough to repair the damage. A weekend away in a nice spa hotel will be a wonderfully relaxing experience. The two of you can enjoy some rest, relaxation and pampering treatments together and by the time you return home once again, hopefully you will be feeling more positive about the state of your marriage.
For many couples, the rot sets in when one or both of you don’t have time to do anything besides raising kids and going to work everyday. We all need a bit of down time, a couple of hours to be selfish and enjoy some ‘me time’. If this sounds like you, then resolve to make time to enjoy a pampering session. Book some beauty treatments or treat yourself to a day at a local spa. Or if it is your other half who needs pampering, book them a gift session or two.
Make a Pact to Get Back in Shape
Don’t let the fact you have been married forever allow you to let standards slide. Long term marriage is no excuse to slob out, eat rubbish and let your gym membership expire. Instead, start eating sensibly, exercise daily and resolve to lose some of the excess weight.
Marriage sticky spots are common when couples have been together for a long time. To avoid danger, make time to spend quality time together on a regular basis and cherish each other as much as possible.
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Today’s featured writer, Jamie Stuart, is a part of the team at Age Less, a well-known local spa in Victoria, BC. She likes cycling and has taken part in various road racing events.